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In my instance, the guy in question broke up with me twice, both for other women. Both times, I was devastated. And then at some point not soon after, he told me that he made a mistake and wanted to try again and that he would be honest with me going forward, etc.
It was during one of these periods that I saw this image. It hit me then that when someone has the capacity to hurt you, not once, but twice, and you see them do the same thing to other people, it doesn't matter how much they say they are sorry or how much you love them, they are not going to change. At least, they are not going to change without a lot of therapy and soul searching.
Before you decide to take someone back who has hurt you multiple times, take the time to ask yourself why this time will be different. Don't just listen to what they're saying. I can tell you a thousand times that I'm going to run a marathon (haha, yeah right) but until you see me doing it, you probably shouldn't believe me.
People can tell you all they want that they're going to change which is why it is SO important to pay attention to a person's actions, rather than their words. Someone telling you that they're sorry doesn't mean they won't do it again. Trust me - I have lived this repeatedly. Unless they can show you that they've gone through the (sometimes painful) process of changing those behaviors in their lives, there is a very high chance that given a similar situation, they're going to do the exact same thing.
Make sure you are comfortable with the person's actions, regardless of what is coming out of their mouths. Listen to my girl Meghan Trainor on this one..
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XOXO, Katz
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